OUR TRUTH
Feb 27, from “Strengthening My Recovery” daily reader
“Denial is the glue that holds together a dysfunctional home. Family secrets, ignored feelings, and predictable chaos are part of a dysfunctional family system.” BRB p. 22
“As we celebrate our willingness in ACA to look at the difficult parts of our lives, we can find ourselves surrounded by those who deny our reality, perhaps in the same way they always have. It can be family members who say “I don’t remember it that way” or “It wasn’t that bad – we’re still alive, aren’t we?” Or it can be people we thought were our friends who say “Can’t you just live in the now? Why do you even have to think about that stuff?”
These messages can be powerful and can often temporarily convince us we’re on the wrong path. But when we look inside, we know what we feel and we know the impact of our childhood. We know we’ve felt fragmented and crazy inside, trying to figure out what was wrong with us. We know that we want something better.
The Promises of ACA are what we want. The deniers in our life often can’t give us anything but more pain. This is why we choose to separate from them and continue to make room for recovery
On this day I will listen to what’s in my heart and know that I am on the right path. I will no longer listen to those who want me back in my old role that makes them more comfortable.”
My Experience:
Interestingly, I have had some in my life that have subtly suggested that I should not revisit the past or live in the now. Thankfully I have never wavered in my conviction of this healing path and I hope I never do. I am not trying to change anyone else and if they want to stay in denial of their path, and that works for them, great. I know it no longer works for me. I know I have improved leaps and bounds from where I started 2.5 years ago and I feel like there is even greater room for me to grow in the future. I have dedicated this year to be a year of healing. I am fully dedicated to healing myself from the inside out. I will not let anyone or anything deter me from this mission. I am determined to be a healed individual who knows what he wants and needs in his life, healthier, in pursuit of those things that make me happy, releasing those things and people that are currently in my life that do not make me happy, and not controlling how others view or walk in the world. I am determined to let others be who they need to be and demand that they do the same for me. Walk with me on this healing journey, it is going to be a grand ride!!
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