ONE DAY AT A TIME
Feb 23, from “Strengthening My Recovery” daily reader
We learn to restructure your sick thinking one day at a time.” BRB p.590
Recovery happens, sometimes whether we’re completely conscious of it or not. We just have to keep coming back and doing the work, “One day at a time.”
It’s amazing when we find we’ve been thinking about a type of situation that used to bother us, and “Poof!” It no longer has the same power over us. Maybe we encounter something that reminds us of the past, perhaps from our childhood, like how we looked at some classmates and wondered what it felt like to be in their shoes, envying them their seeming smoothness and ability to do everything right. This same “one-down” mentality was what we carried into adulthood, substituting that popular kid for someone we worked with or a neighbor or another parent. What we didn’t realize was we were judging our insides by other people’s outsides.
With the help of ACA and giving ourselves the time to work at our recovery, we realize that the sick thinking we carried around for so long is evaporating we no longer look at things the same way. We think about that kid or those other people and suddenly understand the shift in our thought process. We see reality – that not everything is as it appears to be on the outside. We learn to look deeper, especially at ourselves.
On this day I know that I am not now nor have ever been, less than anyone else.
My Experience:
Funny, I have never really thought about this, but how true this is. Some situations present themselves to me today, and nothing. No longer does it bother me and in those times that it does bother me, I am able to examine why it bothers me. If I examine it and determine it is an issue, then I figure out ways to mitigate its affects. Do I need to let that situation go, do I need to change my mindset as I cannot control the situation, is this a person that I need to cut out of my life or shift the way I interact with that person? All are viable solutions to those things that continue to bother me. However, by living one day at a time and having a number of things no longer bother me, my stress level is down, my anger flare-ups are minimal anymore and I am walking through life much more peaceful than ever before. I do recognize that realizing that I am healing today could bring about thoughts like, why was this never presented to me before now. I opine with, my Higher Power was getting me ready to receive this message in a time when I was ready to hear it. That time is, now!!!
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