INNER-LOVING PARENT

July 5, from “Strengthening My Recovery” daily reader

”Learn to validate yourself by becoming your own loving parent.” BRB p. xxiv

“In ACA, we pay attention to how we talk to ourselves in our heads. Mindfulness helps us stop those thoughts that say, “What’s wrong with me?” and replace them with, “I have a lot of things going for me. I am amazing!” As we work our program and make progress, we become our own loving parent and learn to take care of ourselves by affirming our growth.

It seems second nature for us to be critical of ourselves even about our recovery work. We can tell ourselves that we aren’t doing it right, or it’s taking us too long.  But when we see children learning to read, is it okay to criticize them along the way? Or do they need to hear encouragement and support, and have someone say positive things like “Outstanding!  You’re doing great. Keep it up.”  Most of us didn’t hear these words in our dysfunctional families, but we can learn to say them to ourselves now.

Our inner loving parent can tell us some of the most wonderful words a parent can say to a child, words a child remembers for a lifetime, words that help a child know they are okay the way they are. “I love you and I am proud of you.”  This is what we’ve been waiting to hear.

On this day I will capture positive moments, feel proud of myself for the work I am doing, and tell myself I am loved for who I am.”

My Experience:

I provide my self these affirmations on a daily basis.  I tell myself that I have done some bad things but am not a bad person.  I tell myself what an awesome job I have done and what incredible work I am doing in my program.  I especially tell myself what a good job I am doing at healing and letting go of the behaviors from the past that have gotten me here today.  My inner loving parent walks with me every step every single day.  I feel so loved!

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