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GOOD ENOUGH

GOOD ENOUGH

Dec 22, from “Strengthening My Recovery” daily reader “Yet, we come from homes in which doing our best was never good enough.  Or it seemed never good enough.  BRB p.37 As children, many of us were expected to perform.  But no matter how well we did, we didn’t receive praise – just higher expectations.  It…

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STUCK GRIEF

STUCK GRIEF

Dec 21, from “Strengthening My Recovery” daily reader “Grief is loss that is stuck beneath denial, willful forgetting, and the fear of being perceived as dramatizing the past. Grief is the built-up defeats, slights, and neglect from childhood.”‘ BRB p. 199 Before we came into ACA we might have thought of grief as something we…

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DISSOCIATION

DISSOCIATION

 Dec 20, from “Strengthening My Recovery” daily reader “Using a substance to alter the feelings is the second way to dissociate from feeling pain.  The most easily available substances are alcohol, sugar, nicotine, and caffeine.  BRB p. 87 Many of us came to ACA with addictions to drugs or alcohol. Others came with addictions to…

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TRAIT FOURTEEN

TRAIT FOURTEEN

Dec 19, from “Strengthening My Recovery” daily reader “Para-alcoholics (codependents) are reactors rather than actors.” BRB p.17 Before ACA, many of us ran from one person to another, one idea to another, found “better” jobs, sought solutions for our medical ailments, read all the self-help books; we tried anything to change the way we felt. …

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