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How many times have you heard, “that happened so long ago, just get over it.” What that person does not know is, childhood trauma is not something that you just get over. Trauma in and of itself, and especially childhood trauma, must be confronted and dealt with. This does not mean that you must confront…
Why do some children experience life in anger and grow up having anger be their first line of defense? Children that are rejected or subjected to harsh treatment are filled with rage. The reason for this is, they experience internal conflict over this rage, and they battle trying to stifle this intense feeling. Van Der…
Attachment researchers have shown that our earliest caregivers don’t only feed us, dress, and comfort us when we are upset; they shape the way our rapidly growing brain perceives the world, a mapping of our experiences so to speak. That does not mean, however, that our maps cannot be modified or further distorted by future…
Van Der Kolk says, “If a mother cannot meet her baby’s impulses and needs, ‘the baby learns to become the mother’s idea of what the baby is.’” This means that child learns to discount its own inner sensations and tries to adjust to the caregiver’s needs, thus perceiving there is something wrong with the way…