BALANCED INVENTORY
July 12, from “Strengthening My Recovery” daily reader
“In ACA we look at our parents’ behavior, family roles, rules, messages, abuse, neglect, and how that affects us as adults. We balance the inventory of our family system with a thorough inventory of our own behavior.” BRB p.109.
“Step Four may be the first time many of us tell our whole story to someone else. This is a remarkable event, one that leaves us with a sense of wholeness we have never experienced before. The idea we may have been carrying around that we were unlovable, is now slowly melting away.
One of the wonderful things about ACA is that our Fourth Step inventory helps us understand where we truly came from and who we’re becoming. We accept all of what we were given so that we can decide what to keep. When we take our inventory we make it balanced, recognizing that we are now making our own choices; we are no longer blindly accepting what others have implanted in our minds. We don’t have to carry all the abuse and neglect that were passed down to us generationally.
The balance we learn allows us to see where we need to go. We continue to keep the focus on ourselves and change what we can. We no longer look for temporary solutions to life’s problems.
On this day I will trust my direction. I have begun to see more clearly that this new path I walk will give me the freedom I deserve.”
My Experience:
Taking a look at my life from all angles was awe inspiring, it was scary, but mostly it was eye opening. It was a balanced look. I was able to see that I was not all bad. In fact, I was able to determine that I did some bad things but I am not a bad person. This revelation was such a relief, and going forward whenever I think myself a bad person, I find relief knowing that I truly am not. I understand now that I am lovable and I now act that way. I can see and feel the changes happening inside me, but most of all so can others. I can feel others interacting with me differently and life is much more serene. Have the courage, take the ride of the steps, it will be such a relief and you will glad you did!
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