Author: brian coates

TRAIT THIRTEEN

TRAIT THIRTEEN

Nov 22, from “Strengthening My Recovery” daily reader “We felt like we were stark raving mad. We couldn’t see what was happening to ourselves because we were so focused on controlling others and feeling their feelings for them. Or maybe we tried to shut others down because we didn’t want to see or hear anything…

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GRIEF IS A LIFETIME JOURNEY

GRIEF IS A LIFETIME JOURNEY

Nov 21, from “Strengthening My Recovery” daily reader  “Perhaps we thought that we could get through the ACA program without having to spend much time grieving the dysfunction we were required to endure, as well as the loss of what might have been. Perhaps we thought the Steps were a once-and-done process. But gradually that…

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DANGEROUS PARENTS

DANGEROUS PARENTS

Nov 20, from “Strengthening My Recovery” daily reader “Those of us who were sexually abused, either covertly orovertly, realize we were “soul raped.” For a long time, we continually tried to do our part, to sweep off our side of the street, to seek change, but to no avail. The destruction was so severe that…

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ACCEPTING OURSELVES

ACCEPTING OURSELVES

Nov 19, from “Strengthening My Recovery” daily reader “As children, we often had to endure verbal attacks that, as adults, made us vulnerable to even the slightest criticism. Even in ACA, it was difficult for some of us to hear that we had “defects of character” because we interpreted that as being defective, which felt…

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